The real life of Filipina who married to a Foreign man around the world.

What is the real life of all Filipina’s who married to a foreign man around the world?

I myself as one of thousands Filipina who got married to a foreign man can say that I am lucky, not maybe in material things but honestly to have an Aussie husband like him was a great gift in my whole life. I was in this country for almost two years now and I met a lot of Filipina’s who marry to a foreign man (different race). I heard good, fine, terrible and shame stories, which made me realize, am I in one of that word?

To start with, this very interesting topic, I knew a couple names Arlene and Bob they live in Bob parents they are nice people. I met the entire family during their wedding day. I chatted with Arlene for long time and we talked about life in OZ. One day she shared some of her life living with the parents in law. I can say yes she is happy, but she confessed that it is better to have your own house than living with in-laws and I agree with that 101%. Bob had a good job and Arlene stay home to look after Bob which is good, and that is one of the Filipino Culture that the wife stay in the house and look after husband or kids somehow. When it comes to personal matter she shared to me that she had also the access to Bob’s bank accounts in short they have joint accounts etc. and I can say she is very lucky, because Bob trusted her.

I knew also a woman name Perly. She told me that her life so crazy. They are renting in a Flat; the husband had a good job the husband helping her before but not anymore. Perly is helping her sister in Philippines who is studying in college now. I was very shock when she told me that she buy her own food from her own pocket! She buys her own clothes from her own salary that she earn working night shift. She needs to share in the flat bills and more it is like 50/50 in all expenses that they have, but she managed it she said. Onetime she is very cranky with her husband she really told her husband. When I’m still single my suitors giving me money or buying me stuff but when I marry you I got nothing from you even buy my food you didn’t do. Then the husband treats her and he buys Perly food hahaha how funny this story is not it? Perly said she understands why her husband does that, because her husband is sick, he spends lots in his medications, and he is saving money for their house. Well all I can say Perly still lucky because her husband is thinking for their future as well. Nevertheless, the sad thing is that buying your own food or 50/50 in the bills is crazy. My question is Perly has an access in her husband accounts. I do not think so.

Terrible story that I have heard ever is that when a mother and daughter doing Prostitution just to earn money so they can send to the family who needs them in Philippines.

One of my friends visited her nephew who is working as a seaman. The ship was duck in New Castle Seaport last year 2008. The nephew cannot believe that this mother and daughter front business in selling phone cards, but the real motive was selling their body in return to earn dollars. The nephew had the chance to talk to them, as they are fellow Filipino’s. The mother was married to a foreign man and the husband did not know what they are doing as a sideline just to earn dollars for a living. They said they have no choice to earn quick money because they have families in Philippines who are depending on them. The husband did not help them or even give them money to buy things instead; they are the one working for husband. How sad this story is what do you think?

My neigh boor told me a story of her couple friend Virginia and Greg here in Australia. They were invited for a dinner somewhere. My neighboor Lina did’nt expect of what she saw and heard that night in the restaurant. When they decide to pay for the food, Greg told Virginia “Pay your own Food” I was in the middle of shocked Lina said to me. I asked myself why this situation happens. They are husband and wife of course it is the husband responsibility to pay for the food of his wife especially when they going out for a nice occasion dinner. Maybe there is something wrong with that couple.

Gina is my high school classmate in Philippines and she live in USA now. She got married to a retired man had grown up children. Sometimes we chatted on yahoo messenger. We shared our lives vice versa. One time she asked me if my husband helping me sending money to Philippines and I said yes. She said you are very lucky that he is helping you. I told her why not? Then she started telling me her story that her husband told her I would help you but not include your family in Philippines. Gina husband is a nice person she said. He provides food and paying bills but not buying that Gina wants like shopping some things that she likes. Gina has a good life I am sure of that. Gina started a conversation, which is personal, she asked me if I have access for my husband bank accounts or know how much my husband income I answer right away with a big yes. She said you are very lucky to have a husband like him. Then she told me I do not have the access for my husband accounts but I am happy and contented of where I am now she ended.

Janice and Norman is a good friend of mine since when am still in the Philippines. Norman first marriage did not work out he got two boys 20 and 19 and their mother was a Filipina. Norman divorce 10 years ago. Then Norman found his second love to a Filipina and that is Janice. I can say that Norman is really Mama’s Boy. They live with the parent’s house now. Friends Janice wants to move and get their own house. However, Norman said big NO. They do not need to pay for mortgage, power, water, etc. everything is free in Norman parents house, except $100 a week contribution for food. For me that is very cheap what a good life they have I am sure. Norman work as a contractor and he earned enough and Janice still looking for a job. Janice was a type of a Filipina that she wants to live alone and not living with the in laws but she said she had no choice at this time. She said living in your in laws is good but not all the time. They live their for free whichis big advantage for them to save. In return, Janice does not have privacy. Privacy means she cannot bring or invite her friends in her in laws house and cannot even cook her favorite Filipino food. She can cook some but she needs to limit it. As we have that (Daing) dried salted fish, if Janice cook that in her in laws house Ohhh what a bad smell the entire house, Shame, but yummy. Well I can say it is good to live in your in-laws house but you cannot do anything want you want to do. I do not like there someone watching what I am doing or even telling me do not do this don’t do that etc.

I think it is my turn to share my story as one of Filipina who marry to a foreign man. I met my husband in one of dating website. He got married when he is 19 and he had 17-year-old son. When I came here in Sydney, he changes all his bank details and put me in his accounts. He told me how much he earned everything that I need to know he did’nt hesitate to shared with me, I did’nt asked him to do that. His reason was “you’re my wife and I want you to know everything of me and I trust you” he said. It is an honor for me that he trusted me. I am the one do our budget in the house I am the one paying our bills I am the one saving money for our holidays and that all came from his income. I still earn money as I work once a week in the office but the money I earn is not big as what he earns but it still a big help for us. I can buy food what I want, I can buy things what I want everything I want to do I can do all that I can cook what Filipino dishes I wanted to cook especially dried salted fish although sounds funny the smell but it is very yummy. I can do what I wanted to do in our house that no one told me not to this etc. I can invite my Filipina friend to stay at home sometimes, I can sleep the whole day if I like, and I can go out anytime. I can clean the house whatever times or days I like. That is the best thing that I had in our house I have my own privacy, but when my husband away for work the only thing that I am wishing is, I hope I have someone like in-laws to talk with but I still manage as I have Filipino friends surrounded my place and they are a good people. He supported my family in Philippines I have sister studying in Nursing and brother in Computer and two young sister and brother in elementary and my 6-year-old son. I told him he does not need to help all of them, but he said I am willing to help them because they are my family now. Onetime a friend of mine asked me about my life with my husband, they are very amazed that I have a husband who is very nice. They kept telling me to be a good wife, love and care him and never ever change and most of all kept the trust that my husband given to me.

Freeze Your Credit Cards

One night in our house I was walking around the kitchen and I saw my husband busy doing something. I wonder why he's very busy and I saw one red rectangular size of plastic container he put water inside the container and I started asked him a question Why you put water in that container? He replied "Well you told me of this before" I really don't understand him I thought he was playing with the container how funny but I look at the kitchen bench I saw one pcs of atm card and one credit card I really wonder about that. Until I saw him he put the Credit Card into Plastic container with full of water inside and I LAUGHED in front of him. I remember the time I shared with my Husband that Credit Card it should be in the FREEZER not in your pocket hahahahah Am happy that my husband learned something of what i shared about credit cards. Honestly my husband is in DEBT before i meet him he has a lot of Credit cards he did’nt realize that credit card was a big problem in the future.Hmmm well he is lucky to have me I think. When i'm still in Davao City, Philippines I really love to red books especially when it talk about MILLIONS it really really catches my attention. I learned from the book of GRECO GARCIA one of Herbalife Presidents Team. He said Put your credit card into the freezer and that is best place. Now me and my husband only have 2 credit card one in the freezer and one in our pocket. It really good to have credit card but please please know how to use it and use it wisely I'm sure 70% having credit card account is struggling to pay it. To all people especially young ones please limit the way you spend if that is NEED or WANT and don't depend on your credit card all the time. If you have cash why not use your cash in that way you don't need to pay interest or if you use credit card well pay it when you have money straight away but most of credit cards give you 55 days free interest so in that way you can manage how to play it…. PLAY it SAFE and Play to SAVE….